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If you’re reading this, and are already divorced, you are aware of this gigantic headache. But read on, hopefully you’ll find affirmation in knowing how universal this problem is and will truly appreciate the simplicity of our solution.

Let’s begin by examining parenting expense language in divorce agreements. What you’ll find most often is that child support is not the only expense related to children in the agreement. There’s what is referred to as add-on expenses or shared parenting expenses. The agreement will define these, pending on state guidelines and what was negotiated by the parents, and the expenses might include items such as, unreimbursed medical expenses, childcare/daycare expenses, and extracurricular activities. Then the decree will detail how each parent needs to inform the other party of an expense and the timeline that the other parent has for reimbursement. For example, son has X-ray, and there is a $500 copay and the agreement states that unreimbursed medical is to be split 50/50. Parent may be ordered by the stipulation that receipt needs to be shared via email within 10 business days of the procedure. Then the parent making reimbursement may be ordered to pay within 14 days of having been informed of the expense.

The volume of shared parenting expenses is increasing. This is the result of more 50/50 custody arrangements with men and women sharing in both child rearing and financial support equally. Now that we have described how tedious it is to manage shared expenses, imagine having to track receipts, date co-parent was informed, and the reimbursement date for several monthly expenses. To put it simply, many parents stop following the divorce stipulation immediately. The trouble is that this exposes the non-compliant parent(s) to arguments over expenses and to potential litigation or non-reimbursement.

Some parents turn to spreadsheets to track expenses and payments, but inevitably there’s a loss of discipline over time or there is a persistent argument over who’s child expense spreadsheet tracker is correct. We have even had parents describe a quarterly “showdown” over their expense trackers. The solution is paying child support online and tracking expenses using the best co-parenting app for divorced parents DComply.

What do we do over the $1,500 pair of eyeglasses? The other challenge with shared parenting expenses is that unlike child support, they are not fixed expenses and what is necessary is at the discretion of the parents. While one parent may believe that the Ralph Lauren designer frames with the ultra-thin scratch resistant lenses are a necessity, the other parent might not share the same perspective. This disagreement can manifest itself in all sorts of expenses such as, camps, lessons, therapies, university, etc.

It is no surprise that so many divorced parents find themselves back in post-divorce litigation. Shared parenting expenses are messy and emotional baggage that divorced parents carry doesn’t help. It is tempting to loosely follow the stipulation, but I would compare it to riding a motorcycle without a helmet. If you ride often enough carelessly, you’re bound to have an accident, and without a helmet, riding could be extremely dangerous. If you consistently dismiss your divorce stipulation over shared expenses, your potential exposure to very costly litigation increases. And if litigation arrives, prepare to meet the burden of proof by digging up years’ worth of receipts, emails, proof of payments, and financial statements to prove your case. The effort to review documentation and make your case can cost you thousands.

How Does DComply
Solve the Shared Expense Problem for Parents?

  • Ditch the child expense tracker spreadsheet. With DComply you input an expense and your work is done. Payment of each expense is completed in the app; therefore, receipt delivery, payment tracking, and expense bill delivery dates are all tracked automatically.
  • End the back and forth emails and texts with your co-parent. Once an expense is inputted into the app it remains there until the bill is paid or disputed. The app eliminates the need to email or text over expenses and even automates payment reminders.
  • DComply is One Source of the Truth. No alternative facts or stories. When parents input bills into DComply, the dates can’t be argued and when payment is made in the app there is no question whether a bill has been paid or not paid.
  • Scan receipts into the app so you don’t need to save them.
  • Pay bills in seconds. Open the app review the receipt and press pay. Your co-parent will then receive an ACH bank transfer in 3 business days.
  • Dispute Resolution and Tracking. Tracking disputes as they flow between text and email make cobbling together what really happened nearly impossible. DComply has a simple to use and easy to view dispute process so you always know where you stand regarding financial disagreements.
  • Always know where you stand. Use the “Export Transactions” button to pull your DComply report and that can be used for mediation, legal preparation, or to view how much money is tied up in dispute and incomplete transactions.