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Getting a Fresh Start After Divorce by Freshening Up Your Space

June 20, 2024
Divorce
Freshening Up Your Space

“Letting go” after a divorce or separation can be easier said than done. Ridding yourself of certain material possessions can bring about the mental release you need, starting in the home you and your ex once shared.

Get rid of the things that don’t inspire or bring you joy. These things may remind you of your ex and keep you in a state of sadness, anger, or melancholy.

Consider getting a fresh start after your divorce or separation by freshening up your living space. We have budget-friendly tips below to help you revive your home and better heal from the emotional wounds of divorce.

Financial Matters

Understand your financial picture. Divorces are expensive, and now your two-income household reduces to one.

Create a budget, comparing your income to your expenses. Any remaining amount is considered discretionary (money that doesn’t go toward necessities).

You’ve budgeted well if you can live a month or two without touching these discretionary funds. If you find the money disappearing by the end of the month, find out where it goes.

Do you spend more on food than you averaged into your budget? If so, see if you can cut expenses. If not, redo your budget to include more expenses. Ultimately, you’ll see how much you can comfortably spend on redesigning your living space.

Understand your financial picture. Then, use a co-parenting expense tracker app to maintain a firm handle on child-related expenses with your ex.

Why a Divorcee Would Keep the House

Splitting property is a complicated process. Real estate conditions at the time can make selling property a poor decision. The better financial choice might be for one spouse to stay put.

Additionally, staying in the family home might be better for any children involved. It’ll help co-parents minimize changes so kids have an easier time adapting to a new normal, with school zones, friends, and neighbors staying the same.

Challenges of Staying in the Same Home

However, living in the same home you and your ex once shared makes emotional recovery more of a challenge. The house holds memories and memorabilia–from decor and furniture to houseplants and landscaping. It’s a collaboration of both your styles. For these reasons, you may want to renovate it if you continue living there after your divorce.

Ways to Spruce up Your Space

Consider the following ways to refresh and personalize your home post-separation.

Repairs

Now is a great time to fix things you’ve been wanting to fix. Maybe you and your ex disagreed on spending the money on it or where it fell on the priority list.

It’s your chance to have your way with what gets done. If you have the funds, go for it!

Bedroom Makeover

You and your ex intimately shared your bedroom, making it one of the best places to start when it’s time for a change. Sell old furniture and replace it with new. Get rid of pictures of the two of you (or only them).

The most accessible and most affordable change is bedding. Replace old sheets, bedspreads, and decorative pillows with new ones. They don’t even have to be brand new. You can find barely used one’s others are selling close to you online, visit your local second-hand store, or ask your circle of friends if they have any they don’t use.

Declutter

We tend to collect more and more stuff over time. It’s a great time to go through the house and get rid of everything collecting dust on the shelves, piled up in corners, or stuffed in the dark depths of closets.

Use your divorced family app to politely ask your ex if they want what you plan on getting rid of. Some apps for divorced couples come with a tone meter to help you and your ex keep communication respectful.

Repaint

Colors can affect our moods. Use cool colors in the blue, purple, or green families to soothe and relax the senses. Use brightly colored reds, yellows, and oranges to energize and revitalize a space.

Consider adding an accent wall here or there if you’d rather tackle a smaller paint project. A new coat of paint is one of the simplest ways to give your home new life, even if you opt for the same colors.

Texturize

Evoke different styles and feelings through textures. Use rugs, pillows, blankets, and wall hangings to create themes and dimensions in your spaces.

Discovering Your Style

It may be the first time ever or the first time in a long time you’ve had carte blanche to design your living space the way you want. Embrace the ability to discover what types of art and design resonate with you.

Research different design styles like Feng Shui, minimalism, and biophilic. Then, get excited about the little tweaks you can make that will eventually lead to a style that is all your own.

Budget-friendly Ideas

Working with a small budget? No worries. There are plenty of options for all price points. Use the following tips to help you design on a dime:

  • Research the best season for your building needs. For example, contractors or builders are in more demand at certain times of the year. They can usually get jobs done faster and cheaper during non-peak times.
  • Get a one-time consultation for what you want done. A professional consultant can help you create short- and long-term goals. They can leave you with plans that coincide with your budget.
  • Prioritize what’s most important. Start with the most important one that gives you the most bang for your buck.
  • Sell your things online for a little extra money in your pocket. Be sure to follow all best practices for selling safely.
  • Donate your gently used things for a tax deduction. Check with a tax professional or research current tax deduction guidelines on donated amounts.
  • Visit your area’s second-hand shops, like a ReStore or Goodwill, to find gently used items at steep discounts.
  • Learn how to complete simple upgrades yourself by watching YouTube tutorials.

The home you lived in with your ex likely contains small semblances of the both of you. Giving the space a facelift after divorce can help you shed some negative feelings. It is a healthy and productive means of overcoming your emotions and, perhaps, toxic history. And it’s achievable for many budgets.

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