Category: Advice
The “Dos” and “Don’ts” Guide to Better Co-parenting
No relationship is 100% smooth-sailing. Co-parenting with your ex-spouse and any possible step-parents will be no different. Chances are, you and your ex-spouse’s communication with each other was less than ideal when you were together. If so, it is entirely normal and understandable that you would have your doubts about making it better now that […]
How to Have a Financially Responsible Divorce
A divorce is stressful on many different levels: mentally, physically, emotionally, and also, financially. The help offered by your mediator or legal advisor only extends so far. You wouldn’t think to rely on your mediator for therapy, babysitting duties, or finding a new house, right? The typically complex situation of divorce calls for all kinds […]
“I’m Divorcing My Spouse, but Not My In-laws.”
In this day and age, it’s not uncommon to maintain close ties with your ex’s side of the family. Divorce is no longer an all-out war played out by the entire extended family. Instead, divorce is getting reframed as an arrangement that worked in the past but no longer does, and “calling it quits” doesn’t […]
“Bird Nesting” Post Divorce
Less than a decade after actress Gwyneth Paltrow and Coldplay lead singer Chris Martin made “conscious uncoupling” the catchphrase of the year, there emerged a growing trend of co-parents aiming to do right by their children post-divorce. It’s called “nesting” or “bird nesting” after the way mother and father birds take turns in their nest […]
Can’t Imagine Co-parenting With Your Ex? Parallel Parent, Instead
Learning to co-parent well together after a divorce takes time, even for the most cooperative of divorced couples. Learning to coordinate different homes and schedules is no easy feat. For other divorced couples, reaching a “cooperative” situation may sound like a pipe dream. If this describes your current position, don’t be ashamed. Many divorces start […]
Child Support, Medical Expenses, and Apps That Can Help
Healthcare, including the myriad of bills that can pop up from just one doctor’s visit, can be complicated to manage. As a divorced parent, managing it for your child across two different households adds an additional degree of difficulty. You don’t have to resign yourself to the aggravation, though. Your proactive planning, communication, and organization […]
Paying Fair: Sharing School-Related Expenses for Co-parents
There are a few particular seasons in the life of a divorced parent when the complexity of sharing expenses becomes a bit more trying. The specific period we’re addressing here is the back-to-school season. In addition to Christmas and birthdays, it can be one of the most overwhelming times for co-parents and their wallets. Learning […]
A Co-Parent’s Guide to Virtual Visitation
In a majority of divorce cases where abuse issues are not a factor, mental health experts advise divorced parents to aim for equal amounts of parenting time with their kids in order to help them better adjust after separation. While some children are able to live close to their non-custodial parents and can enjoy regularly […]
How to Successfully Co-Parent in High Conflict Situations
Most psychologists and court judges agree that having both parents share custody of the children post-divorce is best for the long-term adjustment of the child on psychological, educational, and behavioral levels. Once both parents can agree that their children’s best interests are their top priority, keeping communications cool and agreements met becomes a bit easier, […]